What is, how to prevent and how to handle a dip?

Written by Beh-aga. Translated by profossgbg 


To experience a dip is something that most BDSM practitioners encounters at some time during their sessions. The intensity both physically and mentally, to be so strong in sessions that you get a mental overcharging. A dip is a small crisis, one can say, and it can lead to a positive development in the best case scenario. During a dip you feel very emotional, easily to weep, to feel unsure of yourself and your way of doing, have a lot of thoughts, sometimes a little illogical ones.

Dip prevention clearly is made through communication. The more that is stated and agreed, the less is the risk of crashing. Security and trust are also important factors in this context. The latter two are built to a large extent by communication.

Do you long for a session, but is unsure and insecure in this context perhaps it is better to refrain? You need to get answers to questions, reassure you about things, talk and ask before a session. Protect yourself and your partner by removing as many obstacles and question marks as possible.

A dip can also occur because of external factors that nobody can influence. Maybe you will be interrupted abruptly, may occur something unexpected that disrupts the session. Long-buried feelings and memories can pop up and change your state of mind.

If and when a dip still occurs, it is extremely important that you have an understanding of yourself and allowing yourself to feel what you are feeling. You are not bad because you feel bad after a session either as a dominant or submissive.

The ultimate is if you have your partner close so that you can talk about it all. Physical proximity is also very important, as well as to give and receive understanding and comfort. An important question to ask, when the emotions subsided something is: “what can we learn from this?”

Unfortunately, the situation may sometimes be such that the partner is not reachable. Perhaps it was only a casual acquaintance at a party (to have an advanced session with such a person a is not to be recommended, but it does not help to be wise after the event). Then it is important with friends that you can turn to whom understand the situation. It should be friends who are aware of the problem, who understand what you are going through, who can listen, comfort, and lift you up again. To write down what you are experiencing and what feelings you have can also be helpful.

It can happen that one says things that seem illogical or wrong. As a partner it is your job to hug and listen. Once the mind has settled, you can focus more directly on the problem, but be careful, talk and think about positive reinforcement.